Easier said than done. Humans can be so cruel.
How exactly do you forgive the hurt that someone you loved has done to you.
Most times its not strangers but the person you love that hurt you the most.
What frame of mind, what process, what can you do specifically to heal from forgiving them?
I used to think ‘why should I change myself (who I am/how I respond) when they are the one that hurt me?’ Today the answer for me is, peace. It takes a lot of energy to hold a grudge and be angry. It also takes a lot to have hard conversations working towards forgiveness. I’ve learned one of the easiest ways to learn to forgive is first understanding and being compassionate towards the person who hurt me. By doing so I release feeling angry and instead develops understanding. I release shame/guilt and instead develops grace and learn how to not judge. And eventually, through grace by faith… that weight gets lifted. You’ll be amazed at how much lighter you will feel afterwards.
Sometimes we need a little reminder that the best gift we can give others and ourselves is forgiveness. We can follow the example of Jesus and offer others forgiveness as he forgives us of our daily sins.
You simply have to forgive just as you would want Jesus to forgive you
I would forgive and move on.. but I would never forget!